My Approach to Couple’s Therapy

As a non-diagnostic therapist, I relate to all patients as unique and therefore do not assume that one can make decisions about how to help someone who is suffering based solely on a category or categories of suffering (i.e. diagnosis). I gather information and try to understand my clients and their unique blend of circumstances. 

Process:

* I start by really getting to know you both as individuals and understanding your unique dynamics and challenges.

* I use a variety of models and techniques, but I tailor my approach to what will resonate best with you as a couple.

* My role is to ask the right questions, reframe your communication, and slow things down so you can better understand each other.

Expectations for You:

* I expect you to be willing to do the work yourselves, rather than just expecting me to "fix" your partner.

* I'll give you homework and prompts to keep you engaged between sessions.

* I believe the work is "spiritual" in that it requires you to look inward and work on yourselves.

The Work:

* I try to be non-judgmental and understand where each of you is coming from, even if you are in conflict.

* I help you see the positive intentions and love behind your partner's actions, even when you're stuck in negative patterns.

* I focus on improving communication by slowing it down, reframing it, and helping you really listen to each other.

* Overall, the work involves a lot of self-reflection, vulnerability, and a willingness to grow in yourself.

I emphasize that every couple is different, so I adapt my approach accordingly. But the common thread is empowering you with hope and understanding to do the deep inner work required to improve your relationship.

Are you looking for help with your relationship? Do you feel that a relationship coach could help you working on your couples skills? Is communication an issue? Have you ever considered couples therapy or counseling? As a psychotherapist and relationship coach, I am uniquely positioned to help you through these moments of disconnect and conflict.

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