Self-Mastery: Retelling Old Stories

Notice when you start telling yourself an old story: that maybe you are overwhelmed or will fail or that you can’t handle the pressure. You actually have the chance to change the story. 

Why does changing the story help? When you change the story, you change the emotional charge. You change all the emotional responses that are carryovers from the past.

Your job is to interrupt the automatic patterns and go down a different path. First you need to notice, observe and label the thought. You can say hello to the old story. Acknowledge it. 

Notice how you feel. Notice your body. Are these new/vibrant feelings or old/stale feelings? If they are new, then they are important information. 

If the feelings are old, notice what story you are reminded of. Don’t take the story as a fact. Give yourself the space to re-tell it and reflect on your reality then. 

In general, when you’re looking at your old patterns, you want to ask these questions:

What is the trigger?

What am I compelled to do?

Does it serve me or does it stop me from what I actually want?

What am I feeling? What is the feeling trying to tell me? Does the feeling have purpose?

If you are feeling overwhelmed or many emotions at once, see if you can break them down into separate emotions.

The more information you have, the easier it is to retell old stories. You also have the chance to siphon off the important lessons and throw out the useless constraints.


Are you interested in working on your personal development? Are you looking for a life coach or a life consultant? Are you feeling stagnant? Do you want to jumpstart change?

 My transformational approach is a process where awareness, alignment, and action work together as catalysts to create momentum for change. 

*Awareness is knowing what you genuinely want and need.

*Alignment is the symmetry between our values and our actions. It means our inner and outer worlds match.

*Action is when you are conscious that what you say, do and think are in harmony with your values.

Together we build an understanding of what you want to accomplish, and delve deeply into building awareness around any thoughts and assumptions that you may already have. To truly transform your life, I will empower you to rethink what’s possible for you.

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